To Invite or NOT to Invite?

In making our engagement party / wedding guestlist, we've realized that it's getting fairly political.

If I could invite all 12938129038123 of yall, I would. But alas, we aren't on Donald Trump's budget so we're trying to keep the # under 300 (i'd rather do it smaller and right, than bigger and have to stinge on certain things...or worse yet work ourselves into a huge debt). With that said, I've come up with some criteria for either inviting you, or cutting you from the list.

Must-invites:

♥ Immediate family (this includes parents' siblings and their children)

♥ God-parents / Parents' bffs

♥ Closest friends. How do you tell if you fall into this category?

• A) You were there for most of the important events in our lives (good AND bad).
• B) you were one of the first we told about the engagement/ring
• C) I bbm you at least once a day on important and notsoimportant happenings.
• D) you've most likely seen my morning face LOL
• E) you've met either of our parents or other members of the family.
• F) you've spent time with us both OUTSIDE of a club/work environment.
• G) we heart you :)
• H) none of the above has changed in the past year.

Maybes:

○ Distant relatives (2nd cousins, etc)

○ Parents' close friends

○ Coworkers

○ Not-so-close friends, but you know our circles of friends. I.E.:

• A) We hang out, it's a goodtime....but we don't know anything that personal about each other.
• B) We usually invite you to our parties, but usually because we felt obliged to (because of our social circles or some other superficial reason).
• C) we haven't really seen you or spoken to you in the past year
• D) You don't know my middle name
• E) you're not on my BBM / we msg eachother once in a blue moon.

You're getting cut if:

x You are a REALLY distant relative (cousins of cousins of cousins etc. (um the word 'cousin' is starting to look and sound weird))

x Parents' random aquaintances

x We've known you for less than a year.

x We haven't hung out / seen you in over a year.

x You haven't met one of us, but know the other.

x You have failed to invite us to your Bdays/engagement/wedding/other milestone events (petty move but i don't care...it's budget time!)

x I suspect that you are going to give us like $20 or a can of Spam as a wedding gift -- no disrespect, but if this wedding is costing us about $100+ a head....don't be an ass!

x you have yet to congratulate us on the engagement (not that I need it, but it just shows you don't care so I assume you don't care to be a part of the wedding day either)

x you're a jerk. kthanksbye.

Of course there will be rare exceptions to the rules, but this is generally what I'm sticking by. And if you feel like you're not getting invited....better start sucking up lol Cuz it's gonna be a fantastic ride ;)

If you are married/engaged, let me in on lessons you learned while making the guestlist for both events.

xoxo

TT